Turn the sound down or play it backward

There is an expression in French: "Tu ne vas pas en faire un film!" meaning when something has happened, that one should not make a "whole film" a whole brouhaha about it.
Yet that IS what most of us do. And so do I. When something happens we find annoying or hurtful or frustrating we go over it again and again and create a film with "and I will say that"and then this will ensue and this time I will answer...etc etc
The more we do that, the more we climb our high horse of self-righteousness or cower down wallowing in self pity, or shoot off all guns blazing... the more vivid we make the film. Adding action, making the picture more vivid, more colourful, louder till we almost wish we were there to enjoy this master piece... Yet after a while...what might have felt good as vent to emotions becomes a very impactful film which does not go away, no pause button at night and it turns into a torment...

So now is time to take action and using NLP, adapt the modalities...

Does your film lose impact if it is black and white? What if you turn the volume down or even off ?
Maybe instead of broadcasting the film in our mind on a large panoramic screen, we scrunch it down to a barely visible square on the periphery of our vision.
You could even make it funny and play it fast-forward or backwards? How does that feel? It loses its impact doesn't it?
Instead of triggering immediately all our emotional buttons, we can pause and consider what we are seeing and choose our reaction.
The images then return to what in effect they are, purely self made images, with as much meaning and impact as we choose to give them, a fiction, a fantasy...

Maybe give that a try next time you have a non-empowering scenario which seems to be stuck on repeat in your mind.

We always have a choice, make it the one which empowers you.

Let's make it happen...

Do YOU wear body lotion?

Strange question maybe coming from a coach... The question arose in a coaching session about 10 years ago which was mostly centred on overwhelm and linked in to an increased awareness of her feeling of self -esteem and self-worth and served as cataclyst for needed changes...

We then called it the "body lotion test"and I have used it a few more times since then.

Obviously it is NOT about the body lotion as self, as you may not personally use any without it reflecting on your feeling of self worth. It was in the category of not essential hygiene like a shower or brushing teeth are, yet a routine that most (women at least) carry out which involves, caring for their body, literally being in touch with it and taking those additional 5 minutes to make them feel good and set them up for the challenges and tasks of the day ...

It is about caring about yourself so you in turn can care about others. If we do not respect ourselves, why should others?
It is not about being selfish, much the contrary, it is about a  minimum effort to set ourselves up to being our personal best and being able to reach out to others from a position of plenty and peace...

So...Do YOU wear body lotion?