Step 2: Determine WHAT it is that you want

Welcome back! On we go to step 2: discovering and harnessing your motivation in order to bring about the changes you want in your life!

Now we have the book, its time to commit to paper. But what is it that you want? This is often less obvious than it seems. We are usually a lot clearer on what we don't want. However if you shoot at nothing you are very likely to hit it. So aim for something, be bold, be assertive, don't start with all the reasons why you can't. Start with claiming what you do want. Bear one important point in mind: the only person you can change is yourself so there is no point having as goal that you want someone else to do something. This goal has to be about you: I want to be...(happier, thinner, fitter, a better person, mother, brother, friend, fulfilled at work, in balance...etc)

Then run a reality check. On a scale of 0 to 10 with 10 being total satisfaction, where are you now regarding that goal? Make a diary entry in your notebook.Now we are talking. Our goal may not yet be as specific as it needs to be but it has a name.

How badly do you want that change? This is the key point regarding your motivation. Give it some proper thought. We say a lot of things, but how many are we really prepared to commit to? We are setting ourselves up for success and it really does not amount to rocket science. The recipe is simple: your desire for the change has to be stronger than what you are currently doing.
In order to get something that you dont have now, you are going to have to do something differently. "If you do what you always did, you will get what you always got". Sounds straight forward. But in order to change you are going to have to do something new, do it differently.You are going to have to take a step outside of your comfort zone and will need all the motivation you can muster to fuel you through.
So are we now clear on WHAT you want? WHERE you stand now? And HOW badly you want it? And is all of this commited to the notebook in visible letters?
Then next week we will move on to step 3: discovering your motivation: WHY do you want this change?

Happy brainstorming. Let's make it happen!